But if you're lucky, you might find someone
I don't think I have ever done a meme for Pride before. As expected, it is about half relevant to my life. I got it from ![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png)
minoanmiss.
Sexuality: I have identified as bisexual since it was relevant; I also call myself queer. The shortest version I have come up with over the years is that I am interested in people, they come with the bodies they come with, and sometimes those bodies change. If the person changes sufficiently to the negative, the interest goes regardless of the body, i.e. when a former partner of mine became a stalker that pilot light just blew out.
Gender Pronouns: I use the female pronouns I was assigned at birth, but do not use them parenthetically because they are not an accurate signifier of my gender. I answer to singular they, but would have switched over to it full-time if it made me feel the most like myself. A conversational mix is comfortable but not compulsory.
Gender: BLARGH.
Relationship Status: The fact that I have two husbands will almost certainly never cease to be hilarious because I expected for most of my life not to marry or even be partnered with anyone at all.
Celebrity Crush: None. I have been at great pains since elementary school to explain that I am not attracted to people I don't know and celebrities by default fall into that category.
Crush: None. I have never been sure how a crush is meant to be differentiated from an attraction in any case.
Best Friend: I did my best to dodge this question all through middle and high school and in college it blessedly faded from social importance. I suspect I have several. I am married to a couple of them.
When I came out: Insofar as I did, my senior year of high school. It came up more conversationally than as any kind of announcement. I am not sure it was very surprising to anyone.
First Person I Came Out To: My parents, because it was tremendously awkward to be dating one person while attracted to another and I wanted some advice on the situation; it was almost incidental that one of these people was male and the other was female except that the latter was the first person for whom I felt physical attraction and the former was the person I was unfortunately dating. Part of the reason I credit the idea of knowing one's sexual orientation before the experience of sexual attraction is that I had never assumed I would be attracted to anyone, but once it happened I did not then expect an exclusive attraction to women; the notion of an exclusive attraction to any gender already made no sense to me.
First GF/BF: Rather thematically, I should not have been dating the person I dated in high school because our relationship was a product of heteronormativity: he was my best male friend and he asked me out and in the absence of experience to the contrary, I assumed that was all that was necessary. He almost broke up with me at the end of our first week because I was not sufficiently girlfriendish and I should have agreed with him. Instead we lasted through two proms before I finally broke up with him. The entire thing was appallingly like a '50's melodrama right down to the revelation of what it was like to be around someone who made my brain turn to lemon pudding while romantically-socially bound to someone with whom I had less chemistry than wet papier-mâché. I have never made the mistake again. [edit] If this question is asking about my first queer relationship specifically, we celebrate our twelfth anniversary this year.
First heartbreak: Yes.
Crush on a straight person: Reciprocated, even.
Fallen for a friend: All of my romantic relationships have developed out of friendships.
Cool straight friend: Er . . .choco_frosh? Some people who are not on DW?
Cool queer friend: Most of them? I am not generally friends with people if I don't think they are cool.
Person that made me doubt my sexuality: In the sense that I first read this question, no one. I have had difficult interactions with both queer and straight people about the validity of my sexuality, but I have always thought they were wrong. In the sense that this question is conventionally meant, also no one. I would have been a lot more surprised to turn out to be straight.
Am I proud of my sexuality: In the sense that I like it and am not ashamed of it, yes, although it doesn't feel especially like something I can take credit for.
Am I comfortable with my sexuality: Yes. It has never given me any stress in itself. I am frustrated by some things about my body, but that's different.
Describe myself: I rather likeselkie's address of me as "gentlethem."
My queer hero: I have no idea. It is not a way I necessarily think of people. Based on glancing over my shoulder at the number of volumes on my office shelves, Derek Jarman and H.D. look like strong contenders, although the counterpoint is that I own almost everything by Mary Renault and I would not exactly call her my hero. Alan Turing was talismanically important to me in high school and has never really stopped being so.
Favorite part of being queer: My godchild appears occasionally to regard me as a queer elder, which is tremendously fun.
minoanmiss.Sexuality: I have identified as bisexual since it was relevant; I also call myself queer. The shortest version I have come up with over the years is that I am interested in people, they come with the bodies they come with, and sometimes those bodies change. If the person changes sufficiently to the negative, the interest goes regardless of the body, i.e. when a former partner of mine became a stalker that pilot light just blew out.
Gender Pronouns: I use the female pronouns I was assigned at birth, but do not use them parenthetically because they are not an accurate signifier of my gender. I answer to singular they, but would have switched over to it full-time if it made me feel the most like myself. A conversational mix is comfortable but not compulsory.
Gender: BLARGH.
Relationship Status: The fact that I have two husbands will almost certainly never cease to be hilarious because I expected for most of my life not to marry or even be partnered with anyone at all.
Celebrity Crush: None. I have been at great pains since elementary school to explain that I am not attracted to people I don't know and celebrities by default fall into that category.
Crush: None. I have never been sure how a crush is meant to be differentiated from an attraction in any case.
Best Friend: I did my best to dodge this question all through middle and high school and in college it blessedly faded from social importance. I suspect I have several. I am married to a couple of them.
When I came out: Insofar as I did, my senior year of high school. It came up more conversationally than as any kind of announcement. I am not sure it was very surprising to anyone.
First Person I Came Out To: My parents, because it was tremendously awkward to be dating one person while attracted to another and I wanted some advice on the situation; it was almost incidental that one of these people was male and the other was female except that the latter was the first person for whom I felt physical attraction and the former was the person I was unfortunately dating. Part of the reason I credit the idea of knowing one's sexual orientation before the experience of sexual attraction is that I had never assumed I would be attracted to anyone, but once it happened I did not then expect an exclusive attraction to women; the notion of an exclusive attraction to any gender already made no sense to me.
First GF/BF: Rather thematically, I should not have been dating the person I dated in high school because our relationship was a product of heteronormativity: he was my best male friend and he asked me out and in the absence of experience to the contrary, I assumed that was all that was necessary. He almost broke up with me at the end of our first week because I was not sufficiently girlfriendish and I should have agreed with him. Instead we lasted through two proms before I finally broke up with him. The entire thing was appallingly like a '50's melodrama right down to the revelation of what it was like to be around someone who made my brain turn to lemon pudding while romantically-socially bound to someone with whom I had less chemistry than wet papier-mâché. I have never made the mistake again. [edit] If this question is asking about my first queer relationship specifically, we celebrate our twelfth anniversary this year.
First heartbreak: Yes.
Crush on a straight person: Reciprocated, even.
Fallen for a friend: All of my romantic relationships have developed out of friendships.
Cool straight friend: Er . . .
choco_frosh? Some people who are not on DW?Cool queer friend: Most of them? I am not generally friends with people if I don't think they are cool.
Person that made me doubt my sexuality: In the sense that I first read this question, no one. I have had difficult interactions with both queer and straight people about the validity of my sexuality, but I have always thought they were wrong. In the sense that this question is conventionally meant, also no one. I would have been a lot more surprised to turn out to be straight.
Am I proud of my sexuality: In the sense that I like it and am not ashamed of it, yes, although it doesn't feel especially like something I can take credit for.
Am I comfortable with my sexuality: Yes. It has never given me any stress in itself. I am frustrated by some things about my body, but that's different.
Describe myself: I rather like
selkie's address of me as "gentlethem."My queer hero: I have no idea. It is not a way I necessarily think of people. Based on glancing over my shoulder at the number of volumes on my office shelves, Derek Jarman and H.D. look like strong contenders, although the counterpoint is that I own almost everything by Mary Renault and I would not exactly call her my hero. Alan Turing was talismanically important to me in high school and has never really stopped being so.
Favorite part of being queer: My godchild appears occasionally to regard me as a queer elder, which is tremendously fun.
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blush Several of my friends answered and I thought it looked interesting. :D