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sovay ([personal profile] sovay) wrote2019-03-05 03:09 pm

You'll plant the moon in someone's eyes

I am also reminding myself that depression accompanies long respiratory illness, so I should not take it personally that on a springlike afternoon right out of a watercolor I feel like I'm waiting for the heat death of the universe. It is my other anniversary with [personal profile] spatch, the date when we became a couple. We will celebrate tonight when he gets off work. Have some really disparate links.

1. Courtesy of [personal profile] larryhammer: Postmodern Jukebox covers "Pinky and the Brain," with special guests Rob Paulsen and Maurice LaMarche. The Pippi Longstocking answer was the first one I ever heard and I still love it.

2. Courtesy of [personal profile] selkie: Wittgenstein Plays Scrabble.

3. I am fascinated by this 1980 pamphlet from the Janus Information Facility because it is doing its best to encourage both the healthy expression of masculinity by women and the healthy self-realization of trans men without sidelining one group into the other. It's not perfect, but it's unequivocally supportive, as when addressing the concerns of trans men about their sex lives: "You CAN satisfy your partner AND satisfy yourself . . . There are a lot of attractive desirable men who are A-1 lousy lovers. It is not unusual to discover that a man who seems to have everything to offer in actuality has nothing. Make a special point of observing other men. Especially look for stereotypical 'masculine' qualities in them and evaluate yourself in comparison. You may discover that, when it comes right down to it, YOU have more 'balls' than a lot of men!" Found via a comprehensive article about the much less charming misgendering of Dr. James Barry.

4. David Schraub on "How to Avoid the Trap of the House Antisemitism Resolution": "Or put differently, and with apologies to Max Rose, the House shouldn't write a chickenshit antisemitism resolution. The first step to changing the bad optics of the resolution is to change its bad reality, and that means holding the active forms of conservative antisemitism accountable too . . . The fact is, it is a trap to agree to the premise that the fight against antisemitism in America boils down to a fight against Ilhan Omar. It is a trap stemming from the right — which wishes to pretend as if their own antisemitism isn't real and doesn't matter; and it is equally a trap emanating from the left — which wishes to frame the fight against antisemitism as nothing more than the fight to silence politicians like Ilhan Omar." Well, that's an entire garbage fire I hadn't seen going up in a roar.

5. Courtesy of [personal profile] umadoshi: "The Concept Creep of 'Emotional Labor.'" I was especially struck by this point: "It seems like this is mostly becoming a popular term in feminist conversations. But if we talk about all the unpaid labor women do in the home as 'emotional labor,' we're insinuating that any kind of labor that falls most often to a woman is 'emotional.' It almost seems like we're saying that women do the work and women are emotional, so that must be emotional work. Like chores are just labor. Writing Christmas cards is just labor."

6. Whatever happened between Nathaniel Hawthorne and Herman Melville, I am sorry it was not fully reciprocated, because imagine receiving love letters from Melville on the regular: "If the world was entirely made up of [magicians], I'll tell you what I should do. I should have a paper-mill established at one end of the house, and so have an endless riband of foolscap rolling in upon my desk; and upon that endless riband I should write a thousand—a million—billion thoughts, all under the form of a letter to you. The divine magnet is in you, and my magnet responds."

7. Steeling my stomach, I did go looking after all to see what the hell had happened with Mark Robson's Trial (1955). Lo and behold: Daniel J. Leab, "From Even-Handedness to Red-Baiting: The Transformation of the Novel 'Trial'." That's damning even without access to the full article. Now I have to decide if I want to track down the novel. I did similar research once with Girl of the Port (1930) and the results were illuminating, but I still really wanted to take a shower afterward. [edit] [personal profile] muccamukk says it's not worth it. Hurrah for bullets dodged.
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[personal profile] jesse_the_k 2019-03-05 08:17 pm (UTC)(link)
0. Very important to keep in mind that many inflammatory events drag the black dog in..

5. Truth!

6. Oh, there’s a rabbit hole to explore.
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[personal profile] thisbluespirit 2019-03-05 09:03 pm (UTC)(link)
0. Yes, true. But still rotten! <3

Congratulations on the Other Anniversary, though, and thanks for all the links.
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[personal profile] moon_custafer 2019-03-05 09:22 pm (UTC)(link)
The Concept Creep of 'Emotional Labor'

I feel as though my interpretation of the term falls somewhere between the original and the expanded definitions. Housework in general is labour, no adjective required, and Hochschild’s classes to-do lists, reminding the other person to do chores, etc, with mental labour; I can agree with that, though I’d go with “cognitive load” maybe, to get across the idea that these task don’t get the recognition for effort that, say writing a book or doing something math-related does. However, she doesn’t seem to consider placating others as “emotional labour,” except in so far as it requires excessive managing of one’s own emotions (i.e. forcing oneself to remain calm and pleasant as part of dealing with someone else), and I feel as though the two things are pretty hard to untangle.
Edited 2019-03-05 21:23 (UTC)
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[personal profile] moon_custafer 2019-03-06 03:56 pm (UTC)(link)
That’s true – making someone you *like* happy is usually satisfying rather than exhausting.

I do still think that comforting a loved one can be exhausting if, say, they have chronic depression or anxiety and the work of keeping their head above water never ends, but that’s where their emotions and yours are apt to get entangled, I suppose.
Edited 2019-03-06 15:56 (UTC)
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[personal profile] rushthatspeaks 2019-03-05 10:15 pm (UTC)(link)
... I would actually love to see a Scrabble game in which any word is allowable as long as a referee can understand what word was intended. (It should not be the opponent, or they suddenly won't speak polysyllable.)
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[personal profile] larryhammer 2019-03-05 10:42 pm (UTC)(link)
I'd play this!

(Though not with my mother, as she'd HATE coination rules.)
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[personal profile] wpadmirer 2019-03-06 01:56 am (UTC)(link)
The Wittgenstein thing made me laugh. In college I dated a guy who was doing his Ph.D. on Wittgenstein (he was in philosophy), so I heard WAY too much about the guy.
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[personal profile] muccamukk 2019-03-06 03:16 am (UTC)(link)
5. I've never seen emotional labour used to describe household chores. I had seen the holiday card one, which I somewhat agree with keeping. I think mental load is getting conflated in there somehow though.

7. I spent one of my free JSTOR access on that, and I would advise against the novel. It sounds like it's more or less in the same line as the movie, but with an added "McCarthy Also Bad" angle that got dropped. I don't think the stomach turning red baiting would be any better.
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[personal profile] muccamukk 2019-03-06 04:18 am (UTC)(link)
I mean, the movie also got production coded up one side and down the other, and I think there are complicated things to say about the CP's involvement in the Scotsborough and similar cases, but I don't think this book is one that said them. Also Angel was executed in the book.

Not currently researching fic, and JSTOR pass largely unused at this time.
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[personal profile] sami 2019-03-06 04:36 am (UTC)(link)
Respiratory illness sympathies.

I have mixed feelings about the idea of encouraging the expression of "masculinity" in women. I'm fine about the idea that women don't need to conform to social presentation of femininity, but I reject the idea that I have masculinity to express. Fundamentally, I take the view that anything I do inherently cannot be masculine. I am a woman. Everything I do is entirely womanly.

Right now, I am watching basketball. I am watching basketball in a womanly way. It's just like manly basketball-watching except I'm the one doing it.

I often end up thinking people kinda overthink gender sometimes and end up reinforcing bullshit societal gender norms more than they break them down.

I will respect people's definitions of their own gender identity and will assiduously use their preferred pronouns. But when people start throwing words around that end up at "so you're now redefining MY gender"... No.
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[personal profile] sholio 2019-03-06 05:07 am (UTC)(link)
Sympathies on the brainsuck. <3

#5: Oh, I like that article; I found it very ... reassuring, in a way, especially the focus on how you feel about emotional tasks as a key component of whether something constitutes unhealthy emotional labor or not. Which doesn't negate the fact that women still tend to get the brunt of it, buuuuut I feel like one factor in "emotional labor" terminology creep is that (I've definitely seen this on Tumblr, for example) it pathologizes things which are an essential part of a normal relationship, such as taking the other person's emotional needs into consideration, remembering birthdays/anniversaries, and the like. And it's not unfair for one person to do more of that kind of thing if they like doing that kind of thing and are better at it (any more than it's unfair for one person to do more of the household maintenance if it's within their skill set and they don't mind it). I feel that "am I doing more of this in the relationship than I want to be doing" is a far better metric than trying to ensure that it's equitable between the two parties, in any relationship.
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[personal profile] brigdh 2019-03-11 04:41 pm (UTC)(link)
I am also reminding myself that depression accompanies long respiratory illness

I'd never heard this before – though it does seem to be self-evident, on reflection – but, wow, it explains a lot. My own long respiratory illness was comparatively short-lived (two or three years) and finally seems to be passing away, but god, it was unbearable. All of my sympathies for you.

1. The Pinky and the Brain cover is AMAZING. Thank you so much for sharing it, because I'm going to be humming it all day, I can already tell.

3. Man, that pamphlet is fascinating. So much of the advice would still work today!

7. Here's the JStor article, if you're still interested in reading it. I have unlimited JStor access, so feel free to let me know if you ever need anything else!