for the dead of my family by name and as always for the dead whose names I do not know, which I do not believe to be part of the common ritual, but it crept up in my family and it matters

We do it at my congregation, and also specifically honor the victims of abuse, gun violence, and institutional violence. It's one of the things I like best about how services are done here.

You would be very welcome at our walk-in service next year or any year, if you happen to find yourself in New York at the right time.