They build it up just to burn it back down

[sovay]

Hello, Dreamwidth.

Technically I have been here since 2013, but then LJ was home. It is no longer. I have not yet deleted my livejournal of the last thirteen years, but I expect to post to Dreamwidth only from now on. (I'll have to reword my Patreon.) It's a little disorienting. I don't usually spend so time on this side. Everything looks familiar, but not quite right. I'll have to get this journal looking more like itself. At the moment I just seem to feel very sad. I have never lost an online community before—much less one with as much emotional history as LJ—and it really does feel like a death or an exile. So much of my coming back to life was on LJ, my relationships with the people who are now my husband and my lover. It was the first place I was known as Sovay. I expected to stick with it until they turned out the lights, but instead somebody stole the lightbulbs and asked me to sign a confession I couldn't read to get them back. It might have been collateral damage to strong-arming someone else, but it was damage and done. I might be grieving that a while.

But in the meantime I'm here. So who's here with me? Sound off.

Comments

[nineweaving]

With you. Love you.

*hugs*

Nine

[umadoshi]

I've considered DW my online home since I migrated here however many years ago (which was admittedly made easier by the fact that my then-primary fandom of many years had basically gone dormant and a lot of people I knew had drifted off), but part of me still mourns what LJ used to be like. And I'm still just helplessly angry about how consistently and repeatedly they've treated the users badly while people tried so hard to hang on to what we/they had there. ;_;

Much sympathy, is what I'm saying. It's so hard. *hugs* I hope you come to find that here feels like a home too, but here is its own thing, and losing LJ is a LOSS, either way.

[kore]

Oh, hon, it's so awful and I'm so sorry. //hugs you

instead somebody stole the lightbulbs and asked me to sign a confession I couldn't read to get them back

What a way to put it. Yeah.

[kore]

Even tho I left LJ a while back it's like some little part of me has never gotten over it. It was my first real online home, where I met a lot of people who are still among my very closest friends, where I really connected with people far more than on Facebook (yeech) or Twitter or any other online platform....Every time it screws over its userbase more and more people leave, it's still awful.

[ethelmay.livejournal.com]

There seems to be a blank account called ethelmay on DW, but I don't remember creating one. But they've just let me request a password reset on it, so we'll see.

I haven't accepted the LJ terms of use, but I was let in after a few attempts anyway.

[tiger_spot]

Hello. I am trying to take advantage of the change to look around and find some new people instead of reconstructing just those parts of my old friends list that have made the jump, so here I am!

I am in the queue to bring my posts across, but it is quite a queue today.

[ethelmay]

Let's see if this works...

[sovay]

Let's see if this works...

Looks like it worked to me! Hello.

[sovay]

I am trying to take advantage of the change to look around and find some new people instead of reconstructing just those parts of my old friends list that have made the jump, so here I am!

Pleased to meet you! Hello.

I am in the queue to bring my posts across, but it is quite a queue today.

I can imagine.

[rydra_wong]

Here and listening. I'm so sorry.

[asakiyume]

Thank you for saying you're grieving, because that is definitely what I'm feeling. I started to think to myself that I feel like a refugee, forced to flee to a place I never wanted to go--and then got mad at myself for the grandiose comparison. But even though it's grandiose, it's the best way to express how I feel.

After you told me how to import other icons, I started doing it, and I felt miserable. It's not the same. My history, the reality of how those icons came about, is all over at LJ. ... I'll still be here, and I'm grateful to have a community here, but I'm definitely grieving.

I had to quit writing this comment so I could go upload my aquaman-is-sad icon. *sigh*

[kenjari]

I'm here. Yeah, it sucks. Although since most of my LJ-friends have been mostly gone from there for quite a while now, it's really the last stage of a longer process for me.
What I really mourn is the the lack of stability an longevity in any social media platform. It seems like people keep jumping to the new trendy or shiny thing, rather than sticking around and digging in to build something of substance anywhere. Sigh.

[lemon_badgeress]

It may sound grandiose, but there is accuracy to it. Welcome. I'm sorry you were forced to come.

[lemon_badgeress]

Most of the emotional trauma for me was in a former migration, but I still have a dull ache and sorrow for my friends who are adrift now.

Welcome. I'm sorry you were forced to come.

[asakiyume]

Thank you--now that I'm here, it's actually been quite welcoming <3

[asakiyume]

What was the former migration, if it's all right to ask?

[moon_custafer]

With all the happened in the past few months, this just feels like one more thing.

[davidgillon]

Here already, but looking forward to meeting those who follow you from LJ.

[kore]

What I really mourn is the the lack of stability an longevity in any social media platform. It seems like people keep jumping to the new trendy or shiny thing, rather than sticking around and digging in to build something of substance anywhere.

THIS, yes. And so much of fandom has moved to Tumblr, which seems very unstable.

[landofnowhere]

I've been lurking around here for a while, but I will actually subscribe!

I was actively posting a lot on LJ as a teenager in '03-'04ish (back when all my entries were public), and less active but kept up friendships there for the following decade. At this point it looks like most of my close friends have moved elsewhere, and I mostly use LJ/DW for reading interesting speculative fiction bloggers/other bookloggers; which I may be moving completely to DW for now. I haven't quite decided what to do with my accounts myself.

[larryhammer]

Am here.

[hawkwing_lb]

Also here. I am sorry.

[gaudior]

but instead somebody stole the lightbulbs and asked me to sign a confession I couldn't read to get them back

That is very well put. Hugs.

[gwynnega]

I'm here. Still waffling between actually deleting my LJ and just not cross-posting to it anymore. Even though I don't post frequently on my LJ the way I did years ago, it still feels like a loss.

[phi]

Yo