If the deception isn't deliberate, if the seduction isn't part of the strategy, if she isn't using men to make up for the agency she can't otherwise obtain within the gendered confines of her society—or just for the fun of it—I don't think she's a femme fatale. She may be a bad idea, but so are a lot of romances that aren't La Belle Dame Sans Merci.

AMEN. Yes.

"Things are going badly in my life. Must be the fault of the woman I'm involved w--" NO. Stop.

Since the directors are taking the time to show that the women *aren't* culpable (in the examples you've talked about), and that the men make bad decisions all on their own, is it maybe that that's what the directors are trying to show? --the blame-others tendency when clearly your own bad choices are actually what got you into the situation?