I have a very hard time letting people do things for or instead of me when I know how to do them --This is entirely natural; I do too, and probably most people do: why would you let someone take a long time to do a poor job when you can do a better job, faster, especially when the other person's lackluster efforts are going to have a poor result that you're supposed to be happy for? I do think it's a good thing to fight, at least sometimes, because I think it's good for lots of people to become skilled or at least competent at lots of stuff (and good not to, on the one hand, need to always be dependent on an expert and, to cast it in a different way, not to always be making demands on one person on the other hand). BUT. I highly doubt in your case your desire to just do the thing rather than relinquish it is based on some sense of gonadal expertise.