I’m sort of reminded of Doctor Johnson, who apparently adored his wife Tetty, and his friends despised her, and historians for years went “what could he possibly have seen in her?” and more recently at least one scholar wrote something to the effect of “well, you’re going by Garrick’s descriptions of her, not Johnson’s, and why is it that people are willing to credit Johnson with intelligence and good taste in everything else, but not in the matter of this relationship?”